Archive for February, 2013

Suddenly it all becomes clear

Posted: February 25, 2013 in Unfortunate Events
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A Toxic Brew

Adult children of alcoholics face down denial, but it’s a trauma they carry throughout their lives.

Janet Geringer Woititz, widely acknowledged as the founder of the Adult Children of Alcoholics movement, lists 13 traits to look for.

These individuals:  (Thirteen characteristics of adult children of alcoholics)

  1. Can only guess what normal behavior is
  2. Have difficulty following a project from beginning to end
  3. Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth
  4. Judge themselves without mercy
  5. Have difficulty having fun
  6. Take themselves very seriously
  7. Have difficulty with intimate relationships
  8. Overreact to changes over which they have no control
  9. Constantly seek approval and affirmation
  10. Usually feel that they are different from other people
  11. Are either super responsible or super irresponsible—there’s no middle ground
  12. Are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved
  13. Are impulsive. They tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternative behaviors or possible consequences. This impulsively leads to confusion, self-loathing and loss of control over their environment. In addition, they spend an excessive amount of energy cleaning up the mess.

 

Also worth reading…

Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA): The 13 Characteristics

http://allone.com/12/aca/

https://twitter.com/Buddy_T

http://stepchat.com/acoa.htm

http://www.12stepforums.net/acoa.html